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For a person with Raymond’s intelligence and self-awareness, it seemed almost far-fetched that he was not aware that he used this phrase – often. Yet, there it is. For Raymond, the conditioned habit of holding back his truth was Shouting at Him to be heard, noticed, and undone. In spite of his conscious intent, he was giving himself a regular reminder that he was not being honest as a matter of course.

She was charming in raising one finger, without taking her eyes off the page, and indicating she wanted a few more focused moments staying with what she was doing. I enjoyed the assertiveness in her gesture, the comfort with our relationship, and the sense that whatever she was working on … she was meaningfully engaged.

“I tried to make the very best of our marriage that I could. And I was going to do everything I could to father my children the best that I could. I would have liked to have known myself and left earlier, but really, when all is said and done, in fact, that’s a pretty good story, isn’t it?!”

I have a dear client, Felicity, who came to me overweight in body and weighted down in her sense of self. I liked her immediately and almost immediately told her so. She was flummoxed and almost certainly more than a bit leery/skeptical.